EMOTIONAL BOUNDARY TRAUMA

Emotional boundary trauma occurs when there has been a significant mismanagement of the safe inclusion and exclusion of your vulnerable emotional self within your earliest relationships.

This includes:

• Wrongful Inclusion: Intrusions into your emotional space, where others overstep boundaries and involve themselves in your emotional experience without consent.

• Wrongful Exclusion: Displacement of your emotions, including invalidation, punishment, or denial of your emotions & authentic experience.

How Emotional Boundary Trauma may manifest in adult relationships:

• Silencing or dismissing your own discomfort

• Putting others’ emotions before your own safety

• Doubting your right to uphold a boundary because someone is upset

• Living in fear that your needs will be overridden

• Policing or shaming your sensitivity

• Feeling guilt or responsibility for others’ discomfort with your boundaries

• Feeling peripheral rather than central in your own experience of Love and primary Love Relationships

What Reclamation of Boundary Health can feel & sound like in your relationships:

• Emotional sovereignty
  “My emotions matter and will be upheld.”

• Authority to claim your experience
  “My needs are essential and will be fully prioritized.”

• Asserting your place in your Love Relationship without apology
  “I am not peripheral; I am at the Heart & Center of my own Love relationship.”

• Trusting your sensitivity as an expression of Love’s intelligence
  “My sensitivity is a powerful compass, it guides me to re-draw boundaries that regard & protect me.”

• Honoring your needs even when others are sad or disappointed                         

  “I can see your pain, and still stand firmly in my truth. My emotional center cannot be collapsed.”